On periods, talking about them and normalising them

On periods, talking about them and normalising them | rhianna olivia

I’m here today to talk to you about periods.

Because a lot of the population have them, they’re completely normal and, to be honest, they should be talked about.

I hate periods.

I know they serve a purpose, I know why they exist and why I shouldn’t necessarily take them for granted, but god dammit I hate them.

I used to get really bad periods when I was younger. I’d be off school for a day or two at a time every month and it sucked. I eventually went on the pill which sorted them right out, and I don’t think I could be without the pill now. You know, until I eventually decide I might want to grow an actual human child. *Shudders at the thought*.

They make my face break out, they make my emotions go crazy, they give me cramps and they are just a general inconvenience. But that’s life, I guess.

Today I’m talking about periods. But, more specifically, how I deal with them.


How I deal with periods


1. Wallowing. I’m not ashamed to admit it. I wallow like the delicate little flower I become. Stroke my hair, feed me chocolate and tell me I’m pretty and we can be friends.

2. Binge watching TV and films that suit my mood. My moods are like a rollercoaster as soon as my period arrives, and it weirdly helps to max out whatever mood I’m in by watching something to fit the mood. Sad? Watch ‘About Time’ and sob your heart out. Happy? Watch Gilmore Girls and soak up the cosy Stars Hollow vibes.

3. Eating shit food and not giving a shit how bad they really are. I want pizza, I want a Chinese takeaway, I want greasy, cheesy toasties, I want enough chocolate to sink a ship. And I don’t care how bad they are because they are delicious.

4. Taking even more time for self care than usual. Long hot showers, face masks, hair oils, leisurely blow dries, soft socks, hot cups of tea, big glasses of wine. Basically, any self care I manage throughout the month is always amplified when I’m on my period. I just need some little extra TLC.

5. Pain killers and hot things. Whether the hot thing is a wheat bag, a hot water bottle or just a sticky heat pad, lord knows I need these things the most.

6. Making more of an effort than usual to compensate for feeling like a potato. I tend to actually look ~nicer~ when I’m on my period. I think it’s because I feel like I look so terrible, I make more effort to not look like a potato day-to-day.

7. Hibernating in comfy clothes. If all else fails, comfy PJs and not getting out of bed is always a winning combo.


Why am I suddenly talking about periods?


If you’re sat here thinking “Hey Rhianna. You don’t usually talk about periods. What’s going on?”

I’m here to tell you, dear reader, I’m not sure why I’ve never done a “hey, periods suck” style post. Because they do, in fact, suck.

I don’t want this post to come across like all women need pandering to when they’re on their periods, or that all women suddenly turn into little delicate flowers that need help with everything they do as soon as their period arrives. That’s obviously not the case.

I mean, it is for me. But that’s cool.

Anyway, I’m talking about periods today because Bodyform got in touch with me a few weeks ago. In case you haven’t seen, they released an ad (which you can watch here, and I would v much recommend watching because it is EXCELLENT).

In the ad, which is for sanitary products, it shows blood.

ACTUAL BLOOD. Not just blue gunk! BECAUSE SHOCK HORROR – WOMEN BLEED.

Honestly, it’s a revelation.

They asked if they could send me a movie night in kit to promote the new ad, and I was all “hell yeah you can” and here we are. Talking about periods. Because as much as they suck, they happen and we deal with them. And I think it’s so important to talk about them and to normalise them, because that’s what they are – normal.

So here’s me telling you to watch the ad, share the ad and talk about periods. Because they’re normal.

Peace out.

*Bodyform sent me a pack of cool things in exchange for this post, but all words, opinions and imagery is my own. The ad is really bloody great and you should definitely watch it. Please see my full disclaimer for more information.

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  • Haha yes to this!!! I fuccccking hate my period but I love to moan about it when it comes! Why aren’t tampons and sanitary towels free is what I wanna know!!

  • I just got my first period last month after having Henry. Thanks to pregnancy and then breastfeeding I managed 22 months without one but my god that first one was horrendous. My skin broke out. My hair was even more greasy than it normally is. I was basically a complete mess! My face has broken out again this weekend so I know the next one is on the way! I want to start hibernating now lol x

  • I find it so surprising when I meet people who find it embarrassing to talk about periods. It’s all natural and we all go through it. I’m glad that you wrote a post about it, though. It really needs to be talked more about in order to remove the stigma.

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  • I totally think periods should be discussed more, so many of us have them! personally I decided to try a menstrual cup in early 2016 and it has revolutionised my life! Less landfill waste, less hassle and spillages, it lasts longer between changes, it’s mostly more hygienic and it’s much much cheaper. Don’t get me wrong, I know this is a Bodyform ad, which they have done brilliantly, and the prospect of menstrual cups to a lot of people is scary, but totally give it a try! Alice xxx

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  • Well done, Rhianna for sharing this blog post! Periods are very normal and I don’t get why some people are reluctant to speak about them. I hate periods as well and they used to be shit for me as well until I decided to take a pill and now my life is so much easier. Thanks heaven for that. Anyways, I love the idea of this ad, it’s so cool that someone finally decided to show an actual blood and not that blue thingy, haha. x

  • I wish periods were discussed so much more! I’ve always been jealous of those girls in school who could talk about it openly in their friendship group because I didn’t have that. I have also been diagnosed with endometriosis so I’ve never felt more alone now. This post has really helped :) xx

    Yasmina | The July Journal

  • I wish periods were discussed more. I have endometriosis, which means I’m bedridden by my periods for days at a time, and in a LOT of pain as a result. Luckily, like you, the pill helps me live a more ~normal~ life which I’m massively thankful for. Unfortunately, the average time for an endometriosis diagnosis is SEVEN YEARS. It’s ridiculous! If periods were discussed more, people would know what to look for, and know when things aren’t right. I could rant forever about this, but it means a lot to me to see you post this, because these discussions need to happen xx

    Charlotte / Colours & Carousels

  • Courtney Hardy

    Periods should be spoken of more because it’s something that every lady has to deal with. Loving the awareness girl.
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  • Love this post – I don’t know why we don’t talk about periods more. It’s like some shameful secret – but so many of us go through it every month, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. I’m definitely feeling you on the eating all the crap food when on your period. I crave all the carbs, chocolate and greasy things! x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

  • YES! I totally love this and the bit where you chat about how you deal with periods, I totally get obsessed with anything chocolate related around *that* time of the month too xxx

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  • Preach it girl! We do in fact bleed! I like that you’ve brought this topic up actually and it’s inspired me to write one of my own about periods! Definitely something that doesn’t get talked about – despite half of the world in fact experiencing them!

    I can most definitely relate to looking nicer and embracing a good pamper when I’m on – it’s the one time I really take the time to practice self-care (I’m working on doing it more often I promise) and taking the time to make myself look and feel nicer! Oh and chocolate, I agree – I can’t get enough dairy milk anyway let alone when I’m on my period!

    Daughter of An Air Hostess // Fashion, Travel & Life

  • I love this! We need to show that periods are nothing to be ashamed of and they are so normal for every woman

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    Ellie xx

  • Cate in the Kitchen

    YESSSSS!! Yes to the ad and yes to this post and yes to normalisation. I couldn’t believe how many women were reacting negatively to the redness of the new ad, we have a long way to go!