My F**k Budget

My F**k Budget | robowecop

It took me so long to decide whether or not to swear ‘properly’ or not in this post. First world problems. I decided on ‘F**k’ rather than an outright “fuck” because that’s how it’s spelled on the front cover. Cool? Cool.

Have you ever read a book that resonates with you so much, you just want to stop people on the street to tell them how amazing it is and how much they need to read it?

The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k by Sarah Knight is one of those books.

I finished reading it on Monday and the first thing I wanted to do was write up a blog post about how amazing it is and why you all need to read it right now. But, I’m not an expert in the art of book reviews. So, instead, I’m going to mix it up a little bit and give you a peek into my F**k Budget.

Before you can understand the concept of a F**k budget, you need to understand the concept of the book.

“how to stop spending time you don’t have

doing things you don’t want to do

with people you don’t like.”

If that doesn’t resonate with you then I think you’re lying. Either that or you’re a master at not giving a f**k and I applaud you for that, but I do doubt that is the case. Unless you’ve already read this book. In which case, again, I applaud you for that.

My F**k Budget | robowecop

The book is split up into sections, designed as a handy guide to help you on the road to enlightenment. A guide for how to give less f**ks. And at the centre of the whole guide is the F**k Budget.

There is a method to the madness, and that is called the NotSorry method. According to Sarah Knight, “the NotSorry method has two steps:

  1. Deciding what you don’t give a f**k about
  2. Not giving a f**k about those things.”

The first step – deciding what you don’t give a f**k about – is where the F**k Budget comes in. I don’t want to spoil too much of the book for you, so from here on out this blog post is just going to be about my own experience with giving, or not giving, a f**k.

I care a lot about what other people think about me. I get stressed out when people don’t like me, I spend a lot of time worrying about how my actions will affect others, I’m constantly paranoid about being accepted and being praised is pretty much the best thing in the world. Now, I am by no means saying that being this was is always bad – it means I work hard at things. But I don’t work hard at things for the right reasons.

I feel like I should work hard because I want to work hard and because I want to be proud of my efforts. I shouldn’t work hard because I worry about what people will think/say/do if I don’t.

So, basically, this book was made for me.

I started out being a massive people pleaser and since reading it, I’ve really learned what I need to give a f**k about and what I don’t. And that, my friends, is my F**k Budget. Think of a F**k Budget as just that – a budget for your F**ks. What you should care about, what you shouldn’t care about and how that affects your time, energy and money. It’s pretty genius actually.

My F**k Budget | robowecop

In the book, your F**k Budget is split into sections based on different aspects of your life. But, like I keep saying, I don’t want to ruin the book for you and I really think you should pick it up and read it. So I’m just going to give you a taster into mine. (Just as an FYI, think of it as replacing the things you don’t give a f**k about with the things you do. Like a trade. Although there can be things that you just don’t give a f**k about that don’t have an alternative place for a f**k to be given, that’s cool too.)

Don’t give a f**k Do give a f**k
  • What other people think of me
  • Having what other people deem to be a “bikini body”
  • Big Brother
  • Being a morning person
  • Beyoncé
  • Any football match/tournament
  • The Daily Mail, or anyone who reads it
  • Camping, ‘glamping’ or anything of the sort
  • Camping at festivals
  • Game of Thrones
  • Greek Yoghurt
  • Low sugar diets
  • Coffee
  • Going clubbing and getting home at 5am
  • High heels
  • HIIT
  • Being able to afford a mortgage
  • Student loans and the £7 a month it currently costs me to pay them back
  • Smoothie bowls
  • What I think of me
  • Feeling comfortable in my own skin
  • I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out Of Here!
  • Sleeping for as long as possible
  • Literally anyone other than Beyoncé
  • The Olympics
  • Buzzfeed
  • Hotels with comfy beds, rain showers and Sky TV
  • Music at festivals
  • Literally anything other than GoT
  • Actual nice yoghurt
  • All of the fruit (and chocolate)
  • Tea
  • Drinking cocktails and making the last train home
  • Not having blisters on my feet
  • Going to the gym
  • Moving out in any way possible
  • Getting out of my ridiculously large, £2,000 student overdraft
  • Avo toast

So, basically, as you can see, there are a lot of things that I don’t give a f**k about but an equal amount of things that I do give a f**k about. That’s why it’s a budget – you’ve got to prioritise the things you care about over the things you don’t care about to lead a happy life. And if someone else cares about you not caring about something, perhaps you need to introduce them to F**k Budgets because why would/should they care about what you think/do?

It’s time to stop caring what other people think about you, your life choices and your decisions and start caring about whatever the hell you want to care about. I am genuinely so much happier already.

It’s your life. (Just don’t be a total asshole about it and you’ll be fine.)

If you need a little extra push, go buy the book. I promise you won’t regret it. Now, GO! BE ENLIGHTENED!


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32 Comments

  1. Theo Person
    5th February 2017 / 2:38 am

    I obviously need this book in my life! I have sooooo many fucks I don’t need to give to the things that I do. Thank you for letting me know such an angelic peice of writing exists.

    Curlprince.com

  2. Monique Jackson
    25th November 2016 / 12:05 pm

    Wow! I love this. Definitely have to purchase this book. Just want to say that I too do give a f**k about avo toast. xx

    http://www.monniiblogs.blogspot.com

  3. 26th September 2016 / 4:32 pm

    This sounds like the best book in the entire world and I need to buy a copy right now.

    alicered.co.uk

  4. MJ.✨
    20th September 2016 / 12:59 am

    I need to find this book!!! It’s a must have?

  5. Stacey
    14th August 2016 / 3:52 pm

    Oh wow this book sounds amazing! I think I need to read this!

  6. 14th August 2016 / 12:19 pm

    I definitely need to read this book. I’ve always felt like I have to do things to please other people & tend to put their feelings before my own. While this isn’t a wholly bad thing, it does mean that I end up neglecting myself at times. It sounds like this book will help me gain a better perspective & gain a better balance. Xx

    Tania | When Tania Talks

  7. 25th July 2016 / 2:18 pm

    Love this post, I am going to make my own f*ck budget right now!! If you read any more books like this pls share :)

    http://www.hannahgetshench.com

  8. 16th July 2016 / 10:07 am

    I think you are me! If this book will teach me how to get out of my ridiculously large £2000 student overdraft that would be lovely. I think I’ll read it anyway, we all need a little reminder now and then that our F**ks are valuable!

    Jess xo | The Indigo Hours

  9. 12th July 2016 / 10:50 pm

    this is so cool! Deffo agree with your list – I’ve never been one to care about Beyonce much either!

    G | Tea With Gi

  10. Alice
    11th July 2016 / 8:44 pm

    I need this book in my life, I spend far too much time worrying what other people think and trying to please them. x

  11. 11th July 2016 / 5:36 am

    THIS IS WHAT I LIKE TO HEAR. I’m entering a phase in my life where I am learning to just not give a f*ck so much. I am a people pleaser and I let any small thing get under my skin. I just added the book to my wishlist on Amazon and it will be in my next purchase. Thank you for sharing this message!

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn’s Korner

  12. 10th July 2016 / 2:05 pm

    Haha! This made me smile. I am currently reading this book and deciding on my fuck budget :) I am thrilled that there is someone else in the world that doesn’t give a f**K about Beyonce!! I thought I was alone. x

  13. 9th July 2016 / 8:38 pm

    I loved reading this – anything that involves making lists and you can count me in! I think having a F**k Budget is such a good idea, so tempted to buy the book now. Also, it’s really nice to find someone else who’s not into camping – all my friends are planning to go to a festival with camping and I’m just like ‘nah’ haha, too cold for me! xx

    Toasty

  14. 8th July 2016 / 2:51 pm

    i really want to get this book – a friend recommended it but seeing this has given me the final push :P xxxx

    Bumble and Be

  15. Becky Hughff
    7th July 2016 / 9:15 pm

    Where do I sign up?! This sounds like THE book!! Thanks for sharing and I would love to see some of the other books on your shelves!!

    http://www.ohsobecky.com

  16. 7th July 2016 / 12:11 pm

    I bought this book a few months ago but for whatever reason, I haven’t started it yet. This post has definitely given me the push to finally read it and put together my own “F**k Budget”. I’m glad you book helped you manage your f**ks. Hopefully it will help me too!

    Sophie
    http://www.sophiesnotebook.com

  17. Aimée Julia Cottle
    7th July 2016 / 11:58 am

    I’ve seen this book a few times in Waterstones etc, and thought about picking it up. I’m going to have to now! This sound brilliant. I love the idea of a f**k budget. x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

  18. 7th July 2016 / 9:01 am

    I love your list! I read this book a while back and proceeded to buy it for nearly everyone I know as a gift for the following few months! It’s amazing. I’ve never tried to make a list like this before though :)
    I’m with you when it comes to The Daily Mail and HIIT! X
    Alice | Whiskey Jars Blog

  19. ~ Sue ~
    6th July 2016 / 11:06 pm

    Now I like the sound of this book. Seems right up the alley of this Desire Map devotee! *heads to Amazon*

  20. Becca
    6th July 2016 / 4:45 pm

    I’ve seen this instagrammed & tweeted a lot but this is the first review I’ve read and I have to say I’m totally ready to read this book! Will definitely have to pick it up asap!!
    Rebecca Claire, Libfemblog.com

  21. Becca
    6th July 2016 / 2:53 pm

    I love this post! That book has been on my waiting list for so long, it’s about time I got around to reading it haha! I think we all spend too much time worrying about what people think of us, and you’re right – it’s all about how you look at yourself that counts :) xx

    http://www.girlglobalising.com

  22. 6th July 2016 / 2:28 pm

    YES! I am definitely going to get this, I need to give less f*cks! You might also enjoy a book called You are a Badass – it’s changed my life! x

    http://www.heygeorgiegirl.com

  23. 6th July 2016 / 1:34 pm

    Oh wow this book sounds amazing, I’m going to order it right now! I really enjoyed reading your list of things you do and don’t give a fuck about!
    – Emily from http://www.emilyunderworld.co.uk

  24. 6th July 2016 / 10:03 am

    Absolute LOVE for this post. I’ve seen the book do its rounds on social media but never really read anyone’s reviews on it. But loved yours. And major lols at the stuff you don’t care about. All the high fives for not giving a fuck about Beyoncé, smoothie bowls and coffee. ??

    Amanda. amandabootes.co.uk

  25. Tea is for Tina
    6th July 2016 / 9:27 am

    This is brilliant. Love your list! I’ve seen the book and kept thinking, I don’t need a book to tell me how, but actually, having things written down works for me, and it sounds like it might enlighten me a little. You’re making me buy things!

    tina x http://www.teaisfortina.co.uk

  26. 6th July 2016 / 7:19 am

    Sounds like a great and helpful book! We spend way too much time with things we think others expect us to do. And then, we wonder why we’re upset… hmmm
    Also I love you because you don’t give a f**k about GoT and everyone I know does give a f**k about GoT and honestly, that you don’t is pretty cool!
    Xx

  27. 6th July 2016 / 7:12 am

    Haha I really enjoyed this. There are so many things in modern day life that we shouldn’t give a f**k about but we spend so long obsessing over. We should focus on the important things for sure!
    Ellie
    xxx

    http://www.thiscountrygirlsjournal.com | Ellie Crossley

  28. 6th July 2016 / 6:45 am

    I love this Rhianna!!!!! It is absolutely brilliant! You shouldn’t give a F**K about what people think of you bc at the end of the day the only people who matter are your love ones and they love you just as you are anyway!!! 8-)
    Sounds like I need to read this book then……….on the list it goes!!! Thanks for that!!!
    I’m pleased Avo on toast made on the To Give A F**K list!!! hehehe!!!
    Sunshine Sarah
    http://www.writingrambling.co.uk