It took me so long to decide whether or not to swear ‘properly’ or not in this post. First world problems. I decided on ‘F**k’ rather than an outright “fuck” because that’s how it’s spelled on the front cover. Cool? Cool.
Have you ever read a book that resonates with you so much, you just want to stop people on the street to tell them how amazing it is and how much they need to read it?
The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k by Sarah Knight is one of those books.
I finished reading it on Monday and the first thing I wanted to do was write up a blog post about how amazing it is and why you all need to read it right now. But, I’m not an expert in the art of book reviews. So, instead, I’m going to mix it up a little bit and give you a peek into my F**k Budget.
Before you can understand the concept of a F**k budget, you need to understand the concept of the book.
“how to stop spending time you don’t have
doing things you don’t want to do
with people you don’t like.”
If that doesn’t resonate with you then I think you’re lying. Either that or you’re a master at not giving a f**k and I applaud you for that, but I do doubt that is the case. Unless you’ve already read this book. In which case, again, I applaud you for that.
The book is split up into sections, designed as a handy guide to help you on the road to enlightenment. A guide for how to give less f**ks. And at the centre of the whole guide is the F**k Budget.
There is a method to the madness, and that is called the NotSorry method. According to Sarah Knight, “the NotSorry method has two steps:
- Deciding what you don’t give a f**k about
- Not giving a f**k about those things.”
The first step – deciding what you don’t give a f**k about – is where the F**k Budget comes in. I don’t want to spoil too much of the book for you, so from here on out this blog post is just going to be about my own experience with giving, or not giving, a f**k.
I care a lot about what other people think about me. I get stressed out when people don’t like me, I spend a lot of time worrying about how my actions will affect others, I’m constantly paranoid about being accepted and being praised is pretty much the best thing in the world. Now, I am by no means saying that being this was is always bad – it means I work hard at things. But I don’t work hard at things for the right reasons.
I feel like I should work hard because I want to work hard and because I want to be proud of my efforts. I shouldn’t work hard because I worry about what people will think/say/do if I don’t.
So, basically, this book was made for me.
I started out being a massive people pleaser and since reading it, I’ve really learned what I need to give a f**k about and what I don’t. And that, my friends, is my F**k Budget. Think of a F**k Budget as just that – a budget for your F**ks. What you should care about, what you shouldn’t care about and how that affects your time, energy and money. It’s pretty genius actually.
In the book, your F**k Budget is split into sections based on different aspects of your life. But, like I keep saying, I don’t want to ruin the book for you and I really think you should pick it up and read it. So I’m just going to give you a taster into mine. (Just as an FYI, think of it as replacing the things you don’t give a f**k about with the things you do. Like a trade. Although there can be things that you just don’t give a f**k about that don’t have an alternative place for a f**k to be given, that’s cool too.)
|Don’t give a f**k||Do give a f**k|
So, basically, as you can see, there are a lot of things that I don’t give a f**k about but an equal amount of things that I do give a f**k about. That’s why it’s a budget – you’ve got to prioritise the things you care about over the things you don’t care about to lead a happy life. And if someone else cares about you not caring about something, perhaps you need to introduce them to F**k Budgets because why would/should they care about what you think/do?
It’s time to stop caring what other people think about you, your life choices and your decisions and start caring about whatever the hell you want to care about. I am genuinely so much happier already.
It’s your life. (Just don’t be a total asshole about it and you’ll be fine.)
If you need a little extra push, go buy the book. I promise you won’t regret it. Now, GO! BE ENLIGHTENED!
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