This post was written in collaboration with Ted Baker
OH HI HELLO LONG TIME NO SPEAK! I know I’ve been a really shitty blogger over the last month, but you know what’s super great and super liberating? I don’t care. I’ve enjoyed focussing on my new job and getting in a new routine so much, I’ve not felt guilty ONCE for barely blogging. Where’s my medal?
You may have noticed that my social media handles have changed. I am no longer @robowecop and now instead am @rhiannaoliviab. This is in preparation for my impending rebrand. I know my social links on here are still linked to my old account, I haven’t had chance to change them and I’m truly sorry. I will do it ASAP I promise. I had to grab the social handles whilst they were A. available and B. matching. You feel me?
Anyway, back to the point of the post. (I am aware I do this a lot. The whole “oh hey here’s an intro that has NOTHING to do with the actual post subject. Lol.” thing. Not sorry.)
Before I start, can I just do a lil happy dance at OMG I’m doing a post with Ted Baker. ME. TED BAKER. I’ve loved them for so many years, this is a proper big moment for me. Cheers, Ted – you bae.
Back when I started blogging (almost three years ago now, I might add. Where has the time gone, exactly??) I always thought I’d be heavily beauty focussed in terms of the content that I wrote. As time has gone on and as my life has changed, so have my interests and my mindsets. I wouldn’t have ever DREAMED of posting style content three years ago because, if I’m honest, my body confidence was lowwwww.
I started doing a bit of fashion/style content when I was at Uni and it was pretty terrible (look here if you want a casual lol at the old, classic, awkward bedroom shots). I swiftly stopped because whenever I saw a photo of myself, I despised it. It’s sad, I know.
I started dipping my toes back into the fashion pond last summer with this post about body confidence, personal style and fashion blogging. It really resonated with a lot of you and it’s one of my favourite posts on this blog to be honest.
The older I get, the less I care about how I look. I’m almost 24 (which, I’m very aware is still very young in the grand scheme of things) and I’m starting to care more about how I feel than how I look. I go to the gym when I can and eat as healthy as possible because I want to FEEL good. I no longer try to push myself too hard with the goal of “I need to be thinner”.
Since writing that body confidence post almost a year ago, I’ve trusted my instincts more, played around with my style more and started to really figure out what I like to wear and what I think suits me. I’m starting to develop a style I’m happy with, I’m being a little bit braver every time I purchase something and I’m so much more comfortable in front of a camera.
It’s a nice feeling.
And, even though I’m not 100% happy with my body right now (is anyone??) I know I can work on it gradually. I know I can go to the gym a couple of times a week but it’s not the end of the world if I take a week or two off. I know I can eat healthy most of the time but a couple of takeaways and a pub trip isn’t going to kill me. If it takes me 5 years to get to the point where I’m totally 100% happy, that’s fine. I’d rather do it that way than almost kill myself trying to hard to do it in 6 months or before our next holiday for that “bikini body”. (Ugh.)
I used to fret that I was at an awkward size for fashion/style blogging. Not quite plus sized, but also not thin enough. Somewhere in the middle. Not being able to fit in any set box. I used to see this as a bad thing, but the more time goes on, the more I see this as a good thing. I’m repping all us somewhere-in-the-middle gals with absolute PRIDE.
I’ve come so far in a year. Even in 6 months. You NEVER would have seen me in high waisted jeans with something tucked into them until recently. All I’d be able to think would be if I looked huge, if my belly was bloated, if I looked weirdly proportioned. Now, I don’t care. I feel fab in this outfit and that’s what matters.
S H O P T H E P O S T
The high waisted jeans and heeled boots combo make my legs look like they go on forever. The figure hugging thing that the jeans do makes my bum look FAB. The shirt tucked in really shows off my waist. I love how I look in these photos, even though I’m not a size 6.
I think my point is, you’ve got to trust yourself. If you want to do style content but don’t feel confident enough, do it anyway. Practice until you learn your best angles, play with your style until you feel unstoppable, you do you. The most important thing is loving yourself and for me, loving my style comes in with that.
Big thanks to Ted Baker for sending me these boots that make ME feel completely unstoppable. They’re the best quality, prettiest boots I’ve ever laid eyes on and are pretty much the most beautiful things I own.
(Also thank you to Joe for these A+ photos)
Top: Marks & Spencer (similar here)
Shoes: c/o Ted Baker
Bag: Marks & Spencer
Watch: c/o Abbott Lyon
Lipstick: Models Own ‘Pink Mint‘
*This post was written in collaboration with Ted Baker. All opinions are 100% my own. Please read my full disclaimer for more information.