Why I share my life online

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Ever since I was a young teen I’ve shared my life online. (Obviously within reason because who else was paranoid about everyone on the internet being a 50 year old man pretending to be a 13 year old girl so they could kidnap you??) Through various “blogs” (if you can even call some of them that), Myspace and Bebo (lest we forget) or more recently Twitter, YouTube, Snapchat, Instagram and here on rhiannaolivia.com.

I’ve always been a sharer. I like to tell stories, be that stories of my life or stories other people have told me. (I also like to hear other people’s stories more than life itself, but that’s a whole other blog post).

But recently I’ve hit a crossroads where I’ve been wondering how much is too much?

If I’m 100% honest, I don’t think there is necessarily such thing as sharing too much. The thing with sharing your life online is, as long as you are in control of what, how much and when you share, you should decide what, how much and when you share it. I’ve had comments in the past that I share too much of mine and my boyfriend’s lives online because I weekly vlog my life (and because of that, part of Joe’s life, too). But who are you to tell me how much is too much?

I don’t share everything. I don’t share where I work (I don’t actually talk about work at all bar the very basics because I personally think it would be unprofessional of me), I don’t share much of my family, I always check if other people mind being filmed/talked about, I know when to share and when not to.

But when I do share moments of my life, be that through video or through words, I choose what and when.

I like to share the good parts of my life. I like to talk about when something goes well for me and I like to talk about when I do something I’m proud of.

But I also like to share the bad parts. The parts that make me human.

I talk extremely openly about my battles with mental health, weight, body confidence, general health etc etc. I like to film and write about the low parts of my life as much as the high parts because at the end of the day, it’s the combination of the two that make me, me.

I am the product of my experiences both good and bad and, being the person that I am, I couldn’t only share one and not the other because I wouldn’t feel like I was being honest about myself or my life.

You may have noticed I’ve taken a couple of weeks off weekly vlogging. I’ve uploaded a weekly vlog every week since December 1st 2015, so we’re over the 8 months mark now, and if I’m honest it started to take it’s toll. I absolutely love weekly vlogging and I love how much my viewers love watching them (even though there aren’t many of them compared to other creators), but a few weeks ago I just thought no. I can’t this week, I need to take a break and take my head out of the social media bubble for a couple of weeks.

It’s draining, having your life constantly online. And that’s coming from someone with a very small following in the grand scheme of things. I’ve always been a massive perfectionist, so when I put anything out there I want to be happy with it. This doesn’t mean everything has to be flawlessly lit with perfect grammar and amazing editing. It definitely doesn’t mean that it has to be of a certain calibre or that it has to be “as good as” other people’s content. It simply means I have to be happy with it.

We all know how honest I am. I like to think of myself as relatable and to me that means when you come to one of my many spaces on the internet, you feel like you’re talking to a friend. And when you’re talking to a friend, everything goes. Nothing is swept under the rug (within reason, obviously) and nothing is pre-editied or polished.

That is always and forever the experience I want you guys to have with me.

(That’s not to say I don’t like ‘aspirational’ anything. I like to think some of my content is aspirational, I like to think I can go both ways depending on the subject and the situation but whatevs that’s another story.)

But, due to the nature of my online presence, it means that I share a lot. I’m ALWAYS on Twitter, I post to Instagram at least once a day, I vlog every single day of my life, I write blog posts about my best and worst moments and on top of that I Snapchat (and now Instagram Stories what’s up with that??) the in-between bits that Twitter/Instagram/the blog/vlogs don’t see. It’s literally never ending.

And I love it. I really do. But sometimes I just need a breather.

I am 100% the nosiest person you could ever meet. I LOVE following people online on all their social media accounts so I can really feel like I’m a part of their day. I LOVE watching weekly vlogs so I can see how people spend their time. I LOVE getting lost in other people’s words on their blogs and websites.

And I think that’s why I love sharing so much – because I love it when other people share.

But there is a limit and there is a time where I think no. I need a break. So you may have noticed a lack of content over the last week (in terms of blog posts and YouTube videos – I don’t think I’d ever be quiet on social media) and this is why. Because as much as I am in love with sharing my life on the internet, sometimes it’s nice to not to. Sometimes it’s nice to just sit at home with my boyfriend, watch a film, order a takeaway and drink some wine without feeling like I have to film it. Sometimes it’s nice to live my life without feeling like I have to document every second of it.

I’ll be honest with you, I was only going to take one week off weekly vlogging. But when the week was over I felt like I wanted to quit altogether. I was tired, I was fed up and I was sad. And that wasn’t necessarily anything to do with the internet, it was just how I was feeling in general. I decided on taking another week off to properly recharge my batteries and remember why I love it so much and I’m already feeling refreshed and filled to the brim with content ideas.

I do believe that I will always and forever share my life in some form. I love doing it so much. I love the feeling I get when someone says they loved my writing/video/anything else. I love the feeling even more when my writing/videos/anything else strike a chord with another person and they tell me neither of us are alone like we once thought.

I will always, always share.

But, for now, the feeling of “I don’t have to” has been wonderful.


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  • Ellis Woolley

    I LOVE this post so much! You’re so right and it’s comforting to know other bloggers and YouTubers question how much is too much. Thank you for sharing! x
    http://www.elliswoolley.blogspot.com

  • I agree with you, as long as it’s under your control it’s not up to anyone else how much you want to share online or not. If we weren’t open about things, how would we be able to share our experiences? x

    http://www.sheintheknow.co.uk

  • Allure Of A Girl

    This is such a thought provoking post and you discuss your thoughts so eloquently!
    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sharing your life and aspects of it, and really do believe that by being in control of what you share and sharing it gives you a platform to express yourself! fab post, I really enjoyed reading it :)

    Billie x
    http://www.allureofagirl.com

  • Lizzie

    I love this post! you do you boo! I think its lovely that you share important things that make you happy it makes your blog more personal! ox

    elizabethv.co.uk

  • Aimée Julia Cottle

    I love this, and can relate to an extent. I often feel overwhelmed and drained from keeping up with so many different ways of sharing my life. It can be exhausting. I think it’s important to sometimes take a step back from it and have a break. x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

  • Brooklyn

    You do you girl! It’s your life, live it how YOU want and feel comfortable with.

    http://www.justbeingbrooklyn.com

  • Lovely post Rhianna, and very true too. With it being your blog and channel you’re free to share as much or as little as you like and sometimes talking about both the bad as well as the good can spark conversation and discussion, as well as breaching the stigma held around certain topics, such as mental health. I can’t remember the number of times I’ve felt better after reading a fellow bloggers experiences and tips on dealing with anxiety or depression and I think it’s quite healthy to want to share some, if not all, of our experiences because at heart we’re social creatures. I do agree with though on the last part of your post where you mentioned how nice it’s been to take a break, and I definitely think that’s healthy too. Sometimes a break is just what’s needed! I also hope you’re feeling much better now too. – Tasha

  • It’s always important to take a step back from anything that we do online, when someone’s taken a step back to recharge their batteries their content always feels more passionate! I’ve loved the idea of vlogging weekly over the past year, but I’ve been forced to admit I don’t have time to actually edit on a weekly basis!
    I look forward to your return, but take as long as you need to refind your mojo and recharge xx
    helplesswhilstdrying.com

  • Yasmin Rebecca

    I love sharing stuff so much, I think it’s because our generation has been brought up too. I had a piczo site when I was 12 and was obsessed with it, and have been with social media ever since. I love that you can share your views and opinions so easily these days but you do have to make time for yourself and sometimes just turn everything off. Great post :) xxx

    Y x | http://www.thesweetsevenfive.com

  • nicole

    Your so right with everything you said in this post! I love sharing my life online through snap chat, Twitter and my blog especially my mental health journey as a way of supporting others and reassuring them they are not alone! Loved this post as always X

    Thrifty vintage fashion

  • It’s completely natural to need a break from anything that takes up a lot of your time (that’s why we get vacation days off from work) and I think it’s even more important to take a break when it’s something as personal as your entire life. I as a reader/viewer would rather see content that you produced because you wanted to and love it rather than content you produced because you felt obligated to. When it starts to feel like an obligation or just too much, taking a break is always acceptable and in fact encouraged. I’ve made a conscious decision not to share so much of myself online and to limit my social media presence (even though it’s not good for my blog numbers) because I know I would get burned out so quickly. I’m impressed with what you share and that you manage to keep your enthusiasm for sharing it, and taking time off is a part of being able to do that. I will be thrilled when the vlogs come back, but in the meantime, you do you!

    Danielle | solongusa.blogspot.com

  • I’ve had to make decisions about what to share and what not to share. Ordinarily I wouldn’t write about where I work as I agree with what you say about it being unprofessional. However I am in a bit of a situation where me and my job have been in the media quite a bit…so really it’s out there and there’s not a lot I can do about it. I write about where I work but make it clear that all opinions on the blog are my own and nothing to do with the organisation that employs me.
    Ellie
    Xxx

  • Becky Hughff

    Really lovely and honest post. You should definitely take a break for as long as you like if you feel you need it. I can’t imagine how exhausting and tiring it must be to do vlogging. Don’t go away for too long though, love your blog and channel!

    http://www.ohsobecky.com

  • Loved this, I don’t know how you do YT, blog and work – it must be exhausting! We all need a breather, no matter what we’re up to!

    Hannah | Oh January

  • Like you I love sharing my life online but when it starts to feel like I have to rather than want to it’s time to take a step back. Glad you are enjoying your break but can’t wait for your vlogs to come back.

    Emma Inks

  • I love this post Rhianna! It’s so true that with SO many channels to share on it can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming. I think you’ve done right to have a little break before you burnout completely x

    Sophie Cliff

  • I think the sheer number of social media accounts available is what can be quite draining for anyone who shares their lives online. It’s fun to write a blog or film videos and maybe to tweet your thoughts, but then we throw in snapchat, instagram, instagram stories etc. Suddenly I felt like I had to be keeping up with all of these things, and keeping them all slightly different. That’s when it feels like ‘being online’ takes over from just living life. Since starting a busy job, I haven’t had the time to be online so much and in some ways it’s quite nice not to be.
    Jennifer x
    Ginevrella | Lifestyle Blog

  • You’re right when you say that how much you decide to share online is completely up to you! The main reason I started blogging was because I wanted to have some sort of online scrapbook, where I could look back at all the things I’ve done – there have been times where I’ve felt a little disinterested in sharing, but totally agree that once something you enjoy begins to feel like a chore, it’s best to distance yourself so you can fall in love with it all over again! :-)

  • I totally agree that you can never share too much, unless you’re in control of what and when you’re sharing it. Being online 24/7 must be so tough and exhausting, you defo deserve a break! X

    Everything But The Kitchen