Happiness starts at home

Happiness starts at home | rhianna olivia

I am such a home bird. I’m such a fan of slow living and if there’s one thing I believe, it’s that happiness starts at home. Give me a night in, with a pot of tea (or a large glass of wine), something to binge on Netflix and I will be the happiest gal you could ever hope to meet.

I like to think of myself as somewhere right in the middle of the introvert/extrovert spectrum. I LOVE socialising (most of the time), but boy does it make me tired if there’s too much of it. I love going out and drinking too many cocktails, going to the pub with friends and getting invited to blog events. But I then crave alone time for a few days to recharge. I would get lonely if I was by myself too often, but that occasional alone time is essential for my mental wellbeing.

Being a blogger, especially one who is so obsessed with social media, can be draining. There’s always this unwritten expectation we put on ourselves for our lives to be interesting. All the time. 24/7.

There used to be this stigma around people who preferred to stay in than go out partying. I do think that stigma is reducing, and it’s becoming a lot more “acceptable” to hate clubbing until the early hours, but there’s a shift happening. I’m not sure if it’s just coming with me getting older, or if it’s affecting everyone, but I just feel like I should be busy ALL THE TIME. And it’s damn exhausting.

Happiness starts at home | rhianna olivia

I feel like I should always be out eating brunch, or having cocktails with lunch on a roof terrace, or buying new clothes, or going on walks, or going on fancy holidays, or going out for dinner, or going to the pub with friends. The list is endless.

And, don’t get me wrong, I love doing all those things. So much. But, sometimes, it’s just not an attainable lifestyle to be so busy all the time. It’s expensive, it’s tiring and it’s just downright impractical to be out doing things constantly.

Don’t even get me started on the pressure we put on ourselves to be busy professionally, as well as socially. Being a blogger with a full time job, I get it. I understand how busy life is, but we’ve got to allow ourselves to relax. We’ve got to let ourselves wind down ever now and again. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking some time off. But, let’s be honest, that’s a whole other post.

I don’t know about you, but this gal needs Netflix, tea, PJs, staying in bed all day on a Sunday, doing nothing interesting after a hard day’s work, having a few weeks where I actually have zero plans. And I won’t be ashamed during those periods of non-busy anymore. (Even if it means the ‘gram is somewhat lacking.)

Happiness starts in the home. It is nurtured with hot drinks and candles and fluffy cushions. It can be continued with a night on the town with your best girl friends, or a fancy meal with your other half, or a swanky holiday somewhere almost unbelievably sunny, but, for me it definitely starts at home.

Thanks to Happy + Co for sending me these insanely gorgeous cushions and providing me with the inspo for this post. In case you haven’t heard of them, they’re amazing. For each product they sell, 10% of their profits are invested into the Happy + Co Farm in Cambodia. This provides much-needed jobs for the young men and women, as well as fresh fruit and vegetables for the whole community. And they sell really, really gorgeous homewares. <3

Happiness starts at home | rhianna olivia




  1. Lacey Houghton
    16th August 2017 / 9:07 pm

    Really loved reading this! I completely get where you’re coming from. I would rather have people round for a cup of tea than head out most days!

  2. Jess Acorn
    27th July 2017 / 9:35 am

    I couldn’t agree with you more about this, I think there’s a time for being busy and social and a time for being at home, I love being able to create a balance between the two

    Jess x

  3. 7th July 2017 / 9:10 pm

    I definitely prefer at stay home and I need time by myself and especially in my twenties it’s expected that we should be out all of the time but that’s not fair or attainable for some of us :( x


  4. 27th June 2017 / 1:51 am

    Absolutely adored this post. I agree, sometimes we all put too much pressure on ourselves to be doing things constantly and it’s exhausting. Particularly when you work full time you feel like you need to make the most of your time off by doing things – but that can just make you even more tired before the work week starts up again. I’ve been trying to embrace just having home days relaxing watching Netflix. Loving your blog, obsessed with it actually.
    Holly x | http://www.thechroniclesofholly.com/ | https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/chronicles-holly-13610625

  5. Rebecca Ellis
    26th June 2017 / 4:22 pm

    I literally feel as though you’ve peeled back my layers – yes, I am an onion haha. No but in all seriousness, I completely understand what you’re saying and it’s exactly how I’ve been feeling to x


  6. Yasmin Rebecca
    19th June 2017 / 12:21 pm

    Sometimes it is just nice to have some me time and home comforts, especially with how fast life goes and everything catching up! Lovely post, love your watch! x

    Yasmin x
    The Sweet Seven Five

  7. 17th June 2017 / 8:00 pm

    I love this so much, and couldn’t agree more! As great as going out is, sometimes you can’t beat a takeaway, comfy clothes and a bit of Netflix!xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

  8. 14th June 2017 / 11:51 pm

    Happy + Co sound like they have a lovely brand ethos! I adored this post. I am 100% suckered in to wanting to say yes to every opportunity life throws at me. I want to fill every second of my life with experiences. So this post was the soft reminder I needed that it’s okay to take a step back and enjoy those moments on the sofa with a cup of tea (and netflix!) without feeling guilty.
    Thanks girl!
    Tasmin | http://www.grandiosedays.com

  9. 11th June 2017 / 10:25 pm

    “There’s always this unwritten expectation we put on ourselves for our lives to be interesting. All the time. 24/7.” Yes, yes, 100x YES. I put this pressure on myself all the time – not because I want to post about what I’m doing online, but because I end up feeling as though I’m wasting a weekend if I’m not doing something amazing with it. I feel like I’m starting to find the balance between going out and having that time to recuperate – it’s just actually putting it into practice. I just need to stop being ashamed/making myself feel bad for just staying in! xxx

  10. 7th June 2017 / 4:32 pm

    Totally agree! I’ve actually been such a home-body these past two-ish weeks as my boyfriend has been away, and now that unis over, most of my friends have gone home. Even though I was initially dreading the thought of being alone for two weeks, I’ve actually come to enjoy the quiet time and have learned to be truly comfortable alone. It may mean my instagram isn’t as active, but it’s nice to really focus on some other things for a while! (And let’s be real, by next week I’m going to be full-speed ahead doing holiday things and then starting work again full time, so it’s a good thing I have this time now!)

    Thanks for keepin it real as always!

    xo Leda


  11. 7th June 2017 / 11:09 am

    I couldn’t agree more; I’m much more of a homebody and would always prefer to stay in on the sofa with Netflix or a good book than be out clubbing all night. There’s definitely a lot of pressure to be doing something interesting, and I always worry that my Instagram is lacking when I have a week where I do not much besides work and Netflix. But we should all do what makes us happy, whether that’s being out all night or in all night! x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

  12. 6th June 2017 / 4:30 pm

    Loved this post! I’m definitely in a similar place on the spectrum. I love going out as much as the next person, having a cheeky bevvy with some friends, going out for a meal, and the odd mad night on the tiles. But nothing speaks to me like a night in on the sofa in my pjs watching a new series or a good film, after a nice soak in the bath. BLISS! Love the cushions too! I’ve never heard of Happy & Co, so will definitely check them out.

    Chelsea x | ohsomint.com

  13. 6th June 2017 / 2:30 pm

    YES I am exactly the same gal. I can’t think of a better evening that a night in with the boyf, wine, a cheeky take away and something juicy on Netflix. We did so much of it at the weekend and felt completely recharged afterwards. I absolutely think it is important to have no plans some evenings or some weekends. To know that you can switch your alarm off, have a long bath, binge watch Netflix, bake. It is so therapeutic! Those cushions look like the dream. Immy x


  14. 6th June 2017 / 12:31 pm

    I could not agree more. I’m a home girl. Sure, I love a bitta brunch and a cocktail as much as the next girl but I love my PJs and cosiness much more.
    Those pillows look SO comfy. I’d never actually heard of Happy & Co so now I’m drawing up a whole list ^_^

    Gillian  xx  Eyelinerflicks.com

  15. 6th June 2017 / 9:17 am

    Love this message, I think you’re absolutely right, and this thought seems to be a theme particularly among bloggers! I’m definitely similar on the spectrum, I love going out and doing things, but after a long day at work most of the time I’d rather snuggle up with a film rather than head back out into town!

    Oh My Goodness, that cushion looks like the most snuggly thing in the world and what a great cause too!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle